Is Your Church Changing for the Worse?

Do you feel like the church you loved so much is lost? And you’re looking for it? You’re not alone, and it’s highly likely that you’re not the problem, even though everyone tells you that you are. Wading, original oil painting by Steve Henderson, sold.

If you belong to a warm, embracing, encouraging and fun church congregation, today’s post is not for you. All I can advise is this: keep it that way, and you do this by limiting the size and power of leadership/management. When these people control as opposed to serve, you lose what you have.

We did, and so have many others: a long time ago, for a short time, we attended a quirky fun church that despite its informality, taught and empowered its members because much of the discipling came from the members themselves. For awhile it functioned, brilliantly, without a supreme leader.

And then the leader arrived. He spent the first year watching and laying plans (doesn’t this sound like what’s going on in many “free” governments today?), but once he moved, it was fast, and before the next year passed, all that was left of the church — our church — was its outer shell.

I didn’t begin to realize this until one day, at a “fun,” yet newly structured, family camping trip, a recent attender commented to me,

“This isn’t a particularly friendly church.”

If you feel like you don’t belong, that’s not necessarily a bad thing. What is it that you don’t feel like you belong to? The Misfit Christian, by Carolyn Henderson, is written for the independent Christian thinker who is tired of being told to be quiet and accept the way things are. Available as a paperback and digital book at

I blamed her, because she was different, you know, not really upright in her life and with a sketchy past (you don’t have to slap me — I slap myself as I write that) — but she was right. Our church had changed: it had been stolen.

Is this happening to you?

It’s hard to tell, because like most takeovers, the really good ones are done slowly and subtly, but there are a few signs you can look for:

Please read the rest at my Commonsense Christianity blog, “My Church Is Being Stolen!” Trust your instincts — if things are feeling right, then they’re not right, and denying it won’t make the problem go away.

My book, The Misfit Christian, is written for the ordinary, regular Christian who is the last person listened to. Think of it: how many books, published by major Christian book publishers, are written by ordinary people, with NO connections to church leadership?

This article is linked to Titus Tuesday, Cornerstone Confessions, Simple Life, Kathe with an E, Paradise Link Up, A Wise Woman, My Daily Walk in His Grace, Raising Homemakers, Wholehearted Home, Wedded Wednesday, We Are That Family, Ducks in a Row,

About This Woman Writes

Carolyn Henderson is the marketing manager of Steve Henderson Fine Art. She writes about life, art, and the art of life.
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4 Responses to Is Your Church Changing for the Worse?

  1. arm5 says:

    Boy I feel like this in my church. Eventhough we have a new pastor I still feel like I m on the outside looking in. To be honest I feel like most of the people that’s involved in ministry in the the church that I go to is nothing but a social club and they cut out the people that are not involved.

    • My friend: you do not belong on the outside, looking in. All of God’s children belong in His family, and there is a place for each one of us in His household. If you dread going to church, or feel depressed or down afterwards, ask yourself, “Why am I doing this? What am I getting out of it?” That’s what a friend asked us when we were going back and forth about leaving our last church: “Why do you keep going if you are getting nothing out of it?”

      We left. It’s a big move for some people, so big that they never make it. Regardless of what you do, please, if you’re not already, grab your Bible and absorb yourself in it. Read about God. Connect with Him. Grow closer to Him so that when you are faced with decisions, you can make them with a confidence that they are right ones — because, as I’m sure you know, many many people will tell you how WRONG you are with your decision, and you should abide by theirs.

      I send my prayers to you, and my earnest encouragement that you close your eyes and rest in the grace and mercy of God. — Carolyn

  2. Sylvia says:

    I think it is awesome that you are shinning Christ light by telling the truth and encouraging the rest of us not to buy into the lies about what church and Christianity should look like. Too many of us get hurt in what I call the “business church” and need to find the true church, God’s people who will truly show Christ. Thanks for pointing us into Christ arms.


    • Thank you, Sylvia, for your good kind words. It is difficult to get the word out, because the major arena – where the message is being blasted — is firmly held by too many people advocating a very wrong gospel. And they fool many of the elect, because they have credentials, and fixed, plastic smiles, confident assurance, letters behind their names from institutes of men, and financial support by backers who want to see Christianity destroyed.

      But Christianity is a one by one relationship, and if, one by one, the Christians who are awake and following Christ speak up and out, and identify apostasy when they see it, and gently lead sleepy sheep to a place of awareness and awakeness, then we are doing what we can.

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