Something Different: a Community of Independent Thinkers

I know it’s frustrating when people say this to you, but it’s actually a good sign:

“No one else has ever had a problem with this.”

All by yourself — sometimes you gotta be — standing on your own, holding ground. Riverside Muse by Steve Henderson of Steve Henderson Fine Art

This tiresome phrase, calculated to squash you down and shut you up from whatever observation you just made, is a subtly manipulative means of repressing dissent by middle managers, politicos, administrators, teachers, in my case, the public works director of the small town we lived in years ago.

“There’s sand in the toilet tank,” I told him. “The plumber says that it comes from your lines, and it’s something that the city needs to address.”

“No one else has ever complained about this before,” he told me. End of argument. Go away, Lady. Just pay your bill and call the plumber in twice a year.

“Perhaps they were afraid that they would be put down and discounted with a sentence similar to the one you just said,” I replied.

(Rarely — rarely! — do we ever come up with a fitting riposte at the time we need it!)

Do you remember that line in the Lord of the Rings movie, when Bilbo says at his birthday party, “I don’t know half of you half as well as I should like; and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve”?

Well, the effect of the one and only well-timed snappy comeback I have ever made in my entire life was gratifyingly the same.

Not only that, but I got what I wanted, which was the city fixing its broken lines and no more sand in the toilet intake, and I learned a valuable lesson long before I turned 40 and no longer cared so much about what other people think:

Thinking for yourself and acting upon the decisions of your own judgment brings about a liberating sense of exhilarating freedom. Spirit of the Canyon by Steve Henderson

Independent thought is not a valued commodity amongst the authoritative amphitheater — be it political, educational, social, religious, or business  — in this country. That’s why, for so many years, we have been assaulted by images of “team playership” (have you noticed that you’re never the quarterback?), and  “working together as a family” (you’re not the patriarch, either); being subtly pressured as parents to rely  upon “a village to raise a child” (how many African villages are peppered with social workers, administrative clerks, petty bureaucrats, and other disinterested, dispassionate, and detached outsiders who want to walk into your kitchen and criticize your tuna casserole?), and the latest — community, which brings to mind people gently rocking in chairs under wraparound porches, calling out “Good evening, friend!” to their neighbors walking by.

So sweet.

Global community, work community, church community, educational community –sometimes it’s difficult to remember that the collective stories of our heritage include hurling boxes of tea into a harbor; arriving — gritty, worn, and poor — to Ellis Island; burying children and parents at the side of the Oregon Trail; running a different kind of railroad — one that didn’t involved unscrupulous robber barons but people with hopes and dreams; working long, hard hours so that the next generation could tackle opportunities the first one was denied.

We even have a holiday — Independence Day — that encapsulates how we used to feel about ourselves.

So go ahead — think, and say aloud, the things that “nobody else has ever had a problem with,” knowing full well that more than enough people are ready to tell you that you’re being difficult, unreasonable, non-collaborative, and out of harmony with everyone else.

You might start a trend.

You may be the first person to walk a particularly different path, but you probably won’t be the last — because many people watching will want to follow in your steps. Catching the Breeze by Steve Henderson

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About This Woman Writes

Carolyn Henderson is the marketing manager of Steve Henderson Fine Art. In addition to her This Woman Writes blog, Carolyn writes a regular art column for FineArtNews, an online newsletter for artists and art collectors.
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5 Responses to Something Different: a Community of Independent Thinkers

  1. Dianne says:

    An excellent column! While I lived in England I realized the difference between those who stayed there and those who came to the new world. The ones with “get-up-and-go” got up and “went” to the new world. It makes a distinct difference between Europe and America. An English friend even told me that when standing at an underground station and a train is late, she always secretly hopes there will be an American in the crowed who will stand up and find out why so they will all know.

    • Fascinating. So much in the media and political worlds, we Americans are attacked and attacked for being who and what we are. Sure, sometimes we’re annoying. That’s the flip side of speaking up and for others.

    • cabinart says:

      Dianne, I’ve often pondered this type of thing. The “can-dos” did, and they had baby “can-dos” in America. They are the reason for that American “can-do” spirit that we are both admired and reviled for.

  2. cabinart says:

    Takes real conviction to speak truth, because often it is perceived as criticism of an individual. (Sometimes it is criticism of an individual!) Takes conviction because you WILL be argued against, criticized yourself, and called names.

    Love the paintings of the Shawl Girls! Spirit of the Canyon is a STUNNER!

    • My natural tendency is to enjoy a lack of confrontation, but at the same point, I get frustrated with the 1984 GroupThink Speak that we endure in our media and society. So you either speak up, or you don’t.

      Thank you for your kind words on the paintings — they are lovely indeed, and the Norwegian continues to create stunning works from his easel. It’s a privilege being the first one to see them!

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