Affordable Homeschooling

During summer, we focused on stuff other than school. Beachside Diversions, licensed open edition art print by Steve Henderson at Great Big Canvas.

During summer, we focused on stuff other than school. Beachside Diversions, licensed open edition art print by Steve Henderson at Great Big Canvas.

Maybe you homeschool all year round. We didn’t.

But even if you do, there’s something about the July/August window that gets people thinking about homeschool curriculum, and ordering the next year’s supply for each child. It doesn’t take long with a catalog for numbers to add up quickly, and unlike the public school system, our textbook and curriculum purchases are not covered by the taxes we pay to the state.

We’re on our own here, but that’s the point: as homeschoolers, we blaze a trail that is unique to each family. When we first start out, it seems as if we’ll never achieve the confidence and knowledge it takes to impart a quality education to our kids, but every day, we the parent teachers learn as much as, or more than, our children.

So let’s talk about curriculum, and how to reign in its costs.

The major difference between curriculum and books is that books are a LOT more engaging and fun. Embrace Each Day poster by Steve Henderson, available at Steve Henderson Fine Art.

The major difference between curriculum and books is that books are a LOT more engaging and fun. Embrace Each Day poster by Steve Henderson, available at Steve Henderson Fine Art.

The first thing many homeschooling parents ask at the outset of their journey is along these lines:

“What curriculum does everybody use?”

Those who are concerned about doing this right and not making any mistakes at all, ever, are more specific, like this:

“We are homeschooling our five-year-old, and I am looking for a complete curriculum that covers every subject: history, Bible study, handwriting, grammar, literature, creative writing, drawing skills, mathematics, basic science, and career choices.”

Regarding statement number one: “Everybody” doesn’t use the same curriculum. Some people don’t use any curriculum at all; others find a publisher and purchase every workbook they produce. Most people are in between, customizing a situation that fits them and their family.

About statement number two: You do realize, don’t you, that we’re talking about a five-year-old?

Stand tall and straight with confidence in your abilities. Purple Iris, original watercolor available at Steve Henderson Fine Art.

Stand tall and straight with confidence in your abilities. Purple Iris, original watercolor available at Steve Henderson Fine Art.

In 20 years of homeschooling, I have found a common thread among many, many homeschooling parents: they lack the confidence to teach their child basic subjects — like reading, language, math, writing, science — and rely heavily upon a curriculum series, which usually consists of workbooks — to do the job for them.

If you are one of these parents, and you are affected by a sentence like this:

“What makes you think that you can teach your child reading, writing, math, science, basically anything? You don’t have a college degree in teaching,”

You need to grapple with this concept first, before moving on. As long as you have little or no confidence in your ability to teach a child how to read or do fractions, you will wave in the wind like a weed before any statement questioning your intelligence or your abilities.

My mother, the ninth child of Polish uneducated immigrant sustenance farmers, taught me every significant educational landmark a person needs to know: she opened the world of reading, explained the multiplication table the day before it was introduced in public school (where they spent the next three months slooooooooowwwwwly dancing around the concept), established the groundwork of grammar, spelling, and writing skills, and showed me how to use the library when I had a question about science. In my high school years, she tossed in basic finances, job seeking skills, and logic.

Effectively, she homeschooled me in the hours after public school, and well before a concept was introduced in the classroom, my mother had already taught it to me. No, she was not a secret homeschooler: this was back in a time when homeschooling was an obscure concept and an illegal activity.  She was, however, excited about life and learning, and she spent time interacting with me and passing on what she knew.

My mother grew up on a farm, where you learn lots of useful things. Homeland 3, licensed open edition art print by Steve Henderson at Great Big Canvas.

My mother grew up on a farm, where you learn lots of useful things. Homeland 3, licensed open edition art print by Steve Henderson at Great Big Canvas.

Isn’t this what you are doing with homeschooling?

So back to the curriculum purchase, and how to save money on it:

1) Don’t buy so much. Use a little to go a long way.

2) Take advantage of the library.

3) Gain confidence in yourself, relying upon books for what they are — resources, not replacements for human interaction.

We’ll talk about this more next week, same day (Thursday), same place.

You may also be interested in the following articles:

Homeschooling? Yes, You Can Teach Your Child to Write

Writing: The More You Practice the Better You Get

Real Life Writing

20-years worth of writing teaching is packed into this inexpensive, easy-to-read, book. Paperback and digital formats at Amazon.com.

20-years worth of writing teaching is packed into this inexpensive, easy-to-read, book. Paperback and digital formats at Amazon.com.

And regarding Step 1 in the list above — Use a Little to Go a Long Way — I recommend my book, Grammar Despair: Quick, simple solutions to problems like, “Do I say him and me or he and I?” which draws upon 20-years of teaching writing to my own children, all of whom 1) write intelligently and well and 2) never say “Him and me went to the movies.”

Grammar Despair addresses common issues that everyone faces — “Do I say there, their, or they’re?” “When do I break for paragraphs?” “Is it really a sin to end a sentence with a preposition?” You don’t have to be an expert in grammar to write as if you were, and you don’t have to spend a lot of money for this book.

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The Proverbs 32 Male

So what does the perfect woman look like anyway? And does she ever look like you? Promenade, original oil painting and signed limited edition print by Steve Henderson Fine Art; licensed open edition art print at Great Big Canvas.

So what does the perfect woman look like anyway? And does she ever look like you? Promenade, original oil painting and signed limited edition print by Steve Henderson Fine Art; licensed open edition art print at Great Big Canvas.

If you’re female and Christian, you are no doubt familiar with Proverbs 31 — the Perfect Woman Passage — probably because you have had it gently slapped across your face. Proverbs 31 neatly complements Ephesians 5:21-24 — the Wives Submit Yourself passage that is half as long, and 10 times as quoted, as the Husbands Love Your Wives passage immediately following.

Interestingly, few men focus on these snippets torn out of context from a much, much longer book — probably because they know it wouldn’t go over very well with the average 21st century female, especially if they are married to her. No, generally women trot out the Perfect Woman Passage, sadly sighing because we 21st century females are so . . . lacking in our ability to fulfill the perceived requirements of perfection, grace, patience, meekness, placidity, temperance, submission, and getting up at 4:30 to shear the sheep to spin the wool to weave the cloth to sew together the garments for our family members.

Intelligent women have noted through history that there is no corresponding Proverbs 32 defining the perfect male, but it wouldn’t matter if there were, since it would be ignored like Ephesians 5:25-32 — the patently disregarded Husbands Love Your Wives section.

Want to be a Proverbs 31 woman? Do it your way, not someone else's. Cadence poster by Steve Henderson. Original painting at Steve Henderson Fine Art; licensed print at Great Big Canvas; inspirational poster at Steve Henderson Fine Art.

Want to be a Proverbs 31 woman? Do it your way, not someone else’s. Cadence poster by Steve Henderson. Original painting at Steve Henderson Fine Art; licensed print at Great Big Canvas; inspirational poster at Steve Henderson Fine Art.

Here’s another observation: the Proverbs 31 Woman is not a doormat, slavishly following her husband around, picking up his socks, hanging onto his every word of wisdom, not daring to contradict or challenge because that would be unsubmissive somehow (by the way, read the passage, and see if you can find the word, or concept, “submissive” anywhere).

No, this woman is smart, financially savvy, hard to fool, concerned about nutrition, and able to stand up to men and hold her ground (when “she considers a field and buys it,” whom do you think she’s dealing with?) She’s creative, generous, well dressed (I will NEVER accomplish that one, so I sincerely hope it’s not an essential element to salvation, but I already know the answer to that), articulate, and . . . a quilter, because “She makes coverings for her bed.”

Before we go too deeply into the concept that all Christian women need to be quilters, let’s quit picking at the passage and grasp onto its general message: the Proverbs 31 Woman is wise, and we too often tend to look at its verses in bullet-point form, laying out one by one the things we need to do each day (when is the last time you held a distaff? Do you even know what it is?)

But while we conveniently ignore the part about supplying “the merchants with sashes,” we zing right onto the “does not eat the bread of idleness” statement, which means that no, you can’t sit down in the middle of the day and read a book, even though you got up “while it was still dark.” (Incidentally, part of the reason you did so was to provide portions for your servant girls. If you’re a normal person living on a regular income and you can afford household staff, write me. I’ll put your money-saving advice into my book.)

How beautiful you are -- uniquely you, walking the path set before you. Catching the Breeze, original oil painting and signed limited edition print by Steve Henderson Fine Art; licensed open edition print at Great Big Canvas.

How beautiful you are — uniquely you, walking the path set before you. Catching the Breeze, original oil painting and signed limited edition print by Steve Henderson Fine Art; licensed open edition print at Great Big Canvas.

Proverbs 31 is not a shopping list of things we need to do, things we need to be, and consistently fail at. It is an amazing expression of admiration for womanhood in a society that esteemed them very little. Read it for yourself (and incidentally, the passage we’re concerned about is the latter two thirds of the chapter; the first part is also well worth reading, especially the “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves,” sentence, something that all of us, male or female, can do).

You’re probably more of a Proverbs 31 Woman than you — or the people who make you feel bad about not fitting into their reality — realize.

Think. Dream. Meditate. Analyze. Question. Seek. Love God; relax and let Him love you.

Available at Amazon.com in paperback and digital format.

Available at Amazon.com in paperback and digital format.

One of the aspects frequently mentioned about the Proverbs 31 Woman is her ability to use money well — this woman is financially acute. I have met a lot of Christian women uncomfortable with the concept that they are the major financial presence in the home, because money is a male thing, somehow, and should be (they think) in the controlling hands of the husband head.

And yet, who does the actual job of paying the bills, buying the groceries, and budgeting for clothing? Financial matters, like other areas of marriage, are a shared part of our partnership, and the person who is best at it — male or female — is probably the best person to be in charge. 

My book, Live Happily on Less, is the result of 30 years of financial partnership between me and my Norwegian Artist husband, Steve Henderson. Saving money, and living well with the resources we have been given, is a lifestyle, in the same way that Proverbs 31 is a lifestyle — not that series of bullet-pointed tips I mentioned earlier. Follow the link; look through the book at Amazon.com, and see if it can’t help you with your own shared, financial adventure. I will not hurtle unrealistic expectations at your head, nor will I make you feel like a flop.

We live well, very well, on the resources we have been given. You can too.

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Get ‘Em Drunk and They’ll Buy Anything

People don’t have to be forced or tricked into buying art. When they see the piece they love, they gravitate toward it. Lonesome Barn, original watercolor by Steve Henderson.

I’m not going to ask you if you’ve heard the sentence in the title, but I’d be curious to know how many times you’ve heard it. I’ve lost count. It’s one of those jokes along the lines of what dentists grit their teeth at, you know,

“What’s the matter, Doc? You look down in the mouth!”

The last two articles we have been discussing art, wine, events, and where you fit into all of this (Art and Wine; Wine and Art; On and on  and Art and Wine: They Go Together!)

This week, let’s attack this funny little sentence about drunk people shoving fine art pieces into paper shopping bags and reeling their way out to the car. In the morning, through blurred vision and a blinding headache, they squint at what’s propped up against the door and say,

A painting is a reminder of the special time and place where we purchased it. Figurative II, open edition licensed art print at Great Big Canvas.

A painting is a reminder of the special time and place where we purchased it. Figurative II, open edition licensed art print at Great Big Canvas.

“What did I buy? How much did I spend?”

Seriously, this is where that sentence ultimately ends up, and it’s absurd.

Read the rest at Get ‘Em Drunk and They’ll Buy anything at the Fine Art Views site. (Check out the comments, too; the readers on this site are perceptive, witty, analytical, and smart.)

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Can Anybody Be an Artist?

To capture color, movement, and emotion on canvas like this, it takes skill and thousands of hours of practice. But you can enjoy painting at any level. Mesa Walk, licensed open edition print at Light in the Box and Great Big Canvas.

To capture color, movement, and emotion on canvas like this, it takes skill and thousands of hours of practice. But you can enjoy painting at any level. Mesa Walk, licensed open edition print at Light in the Box and Great Big Canvas.

From Start Your Week with Steve, the weekly newsletter of Steve Henderson Fine Art.

Steve Says:

“It amazes me how many people want to draw or paint. Age makes no difference; I talk with people as young as 8 and up to the century mark who confess to a burning desire to create art, as if it were a secret that they are embarrassed to let others know about.

“A frequent question they ask me is this:

“Do I have to have a special gift to do art, or is it something that can be taught, and learned?”

“Yes. And yes.

“In the same way that some people are natural mathematicians, or musicians, or speakers, athletes, or scientists — gravitating toward these fields because they have an innate aptitude for them — some people are natural artists. How good they eventually get at their art depends upon how much they train and practice. When we watch the Olympics, we understand that the natural abilities of these gifted athletes have been honed by thousands of hours of literal sweat.

Part of learning to be an artist is learning how to see differently. For instance, water isn't necessarily blue. Opalescent Sea, licensed open edition art print at Great Big Canvas.

Part of learning to be an artist is learning how to see differently. For instance, water isn’t necessarily blue. Opalescent Sea, licensed open edition art print at Great Big Canvas.

“But just because we don’t strive for the Olympics doesn’t mean that the rest of us avoid basketball or skip ice skating. So it is with art — if you have a desire and a craving to learn art, then you can learn art. You may not make a living at it, but there is nothing stopping you from plunging into watercolor and steeping yourself in oil paint (not literally, please).

“Just like the natural, however, you need training. Don’t let anyone tell you that you don’t, and recognizing that there are basics to learn will save you hours of frustration in the future.

“And speaking of the future, a short way into it I will be posting on my website, www.SteveHendersonFineArt.com, Video Sequence Tutorials of artwork that you can follow and learn from, whether you are a rank beginner or a seasoned intermediate. Based upon actual workshops that I teach, the Tutorials will be available as DVDs and downloads, and will be as reasonably priced as a book.

“If you’ve been dreaming about painting something for your wall, you don’t have to dream much longer. Let’s make this a reality.”

Read more, and consider subscribing, at Start Your Week with Steve. When the Video Tutorials are available for purchase, we will let you know via the newsletter.

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Real Life Writing

This is real life: home, the outdoors, running, and breathing in the good air. I never could answer where algebra fit into this. Wild Child -- licensed open edition art print at Great Big Canvas.

This is real life: home, the outdoors, running, and breathing in the good air. I never could answer where algebra fit into this. Wild Child — licensed open edition art print at Great Big Canvas.

One of my son’s favorite — and unanswerable — questions through the years had to do with Algebra and higher math.

“When will I ever use this?” he asked. “And if I never use it, why do I have to learn it?”

I never did come up with a good answer for that one, having successfully made it to seasoned adulthood without dredging up my high school trigonometry.

But I did understand his frustration of devoting time and mental energy to a task for which he saw no purpose. Algebra isn’t the only subject our children wonder what they’re going to do with some day.

Too frequently, we expect our children to write to no purpose — the 2-page, 5-page, 10-page research paper being the primary example, and really, the main reason we insist upon their completing these projects in high school is because they will be expected to do so in college. How many of us, since our college days, have completed a research paper?

Which isn’t to say that it doesn’t have its purposes — organization, understanding of subject matter, citation, the ability to understand and avoid plagiarism — but our children’s writing time can also include more pertinent activities that they will actually use in their later, adult lives:

Writing, like other aspects of our lives, needs to be meaningful. Dandelions, licensed open edition print by Steve Henderson at Great Big Canvas.

Writing, like other aspects of our lives, needs to be meaningful. Dandelions, licensed open edition print by Steve Henderson at Great Big Canvas.

  • Writing letters — personal or business
  • Crafting e-mails (this is more difficult than it sounds)
  • Telling, in written form, a story
  • Providing clear, easy to follow instructions (how many of us who have purchased a “some assembly required” item have longed, achingly, for comprehensive, and comprehensible, directions?)
  • Poetry and creative writing — not every child is interested in these areas, but those who are should have the opportunity to explore them. Your child may never play the piano well, but the music in his soul could come out through his writing.
  • Describing the results of a science experiment
  • Expressing an opinion on a political, historical, or societal subject (the Letters to the Editor section of the paper remains many people’s favorite)
Simplicity is good, in our writing and in all aspects of our lives. Purple Iris, original watercolor by Steve Henderson.

Simplicity is good, in our writing and in all aspects of our lives. Purple Iris, original watercolor by Steve Henderson.

When you think of all the real functions that writing can fulfill in everyday life, all of a sudden you can see how a child can spend 15 minutes to an hour, daily (depending upon the child’s age), doing them. And the more a child writes — and writes for a purpose — the better he becomes at it. And the better he becomes at it, the more willing he is to do it (one hopes).

It’s almost my mantra, but the primary purpose of writing is to express ourselves, and everybody — regardless of age — has something to say. When our children believe that what they spend their time putting to paper or screen is actually being read and absorbed, they gain in confidence and ability, and when enough time goes by — 1st grade segues into middle school, then middle school into their junior year of high school — all that practice and hard work results in a person who can write.

This is the third and last of three articles on teaching your child how to write. Article number one is Homeschooling? Yes, You Can Teach Your Child to Write, and article number two is Writing: The More You Practice the Better You Get.

20-years worth of writing teaching is packed into this inexpensive, easy-to-read, book. Paperback and digital formats at Amazon.com.

20-years worth of writing teaching is packed into this inexpensive, easy-to-read, book. Paperback and digital formats at Amazon.com.

I have successfully homeschooled four children in a 20-year period. As a professional writer, I observed the common mistakes and issues many people face, and addressed them in my book, Grammar Despair: Quick, simple solutions to problems like, “Do I say him and me or he and I?” available at Amazon.com as a paperback and digital book.

I have also successfully raised a family of six

Available in paperback and digital format at Amazon.com

Available in paperback and digital format at Amazon.com

on an extremely modest income, which is what most homeschoolers — and families of all sorts — deal with. Live Happily on Less: 52 Ideas to Renovate Your Life and Lifestyle, addresses how to make realistic, sustainable changes in the way you think and spend money, so that you can get the most out of the resources you have. Many money saving books hammer you over the head with frugality tips — extreme couponing, and making odd craft projects out of old t-shirts or blue jeans — but I don’t. Unless you find what works for you, and works well, you won’t do it — and my book walks you through finding what works for you.

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Writing: The More You Practice, the Better You Get

Homeschooling involves doing all sorts of things together, from domestic chores to reading one another's writing. Sophie and Rose -- open edition licensed print by Steve Henderson at Great Big Canvas.

Homeschooling involves doing all sorts of things together, from domestic chores to reading one another’s writing. Sophie and Rose — open edition licensed print by Steve Henderson at Great Big Canvas.

This is the second in a three-part article series on teaching your children to write, and write well.

The first part of this series (Home-schooling? Yes, you can teach your child to write) addressed many home-schooling instructors’ reluctance to teach their children to write, because they — the instructors — don’t know grammar. Grammar is essential to writing well, they are convinced, so they purchase workbooks for their 6-year-olds that launch into nouns, verbs, adjectives, adverbs, prepositions and conjunctions.

While these basic building blocks of language construction are important to learn, they can wait. Plus, an older child can pick them up relatively quickly. What is difficult to pick up without consistent and constant practice, however, is the actual composition process of writing.

In other words, the more you write, the better you write.

I wrote Grammar Despair to help people write, and write well, something you can do without a degree in Grammar. Paperback and Digital at Amazon.com.

I wrote Grammar Despair to help people write, and write well, something you can do without a degree in Grammar. Paperback and Digital at Amazon.com.

And all you need to get started is a pen, paper and something to say.

Throughout our home-schooling experience, writing consisted of sitting down for a set period of time and … writing. Younger children spent 15 minutes, older children up to an hour — daily. Most of the time, subject matter was up to the child, and if they were absolutely flummoxed (“I can’t think of anything at all to write” was, in a young child’s mind, sufficient to be excused from the task) I offered them three choices, one of which they had to pick. Generally, before they opted for this alternative, they found something to write about.

And my job?

Read the rest of the article, published at Deseret News.

Part III of this series, Real Life Writing, will be posted Monday, July 22.

Indian Hill -- licensed open edition print by Steve Henderson at Light in the Box.

Indian Hill — licensed open edition print by Steve Henderson at Light in the Box.

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Homeschooling? Yes, You Can Teach Your Child to Write

Dream Big, and other inspirational posters by Steve Henderson

Dream Big, and other inspirational posters by Steve Henderson

This is the first of a three-part series on teaching your child to write, published in Deseret News:

In more than 20 years of home-schooling, I have heard variations on this sentence,

“I can’t teach my child to write because I don’t know my grammar.”

(Actually, the beginning to this particular sentence could be completed in all sorts of ways:

“I can’t teach my child writing/reading/grammar/language/chemistry/biology/any science at all/algebra I/algebra II/any math at all/history/music/art.” There’s a general theme here of doubt in one’s abilities. Frequently the solution, after trying all sorts of workbooks and curriculums that promise results, is to put the child back in a “real” school.)

Many people who are convinced that they can’t teach their children how to write without a strong grasp of grammar don’t realize an essential aspect of writing:

You don’t need to know grammar in order to write well.

Read the rest at Deseret News, and look for Part 2, on this site, tomorrow.

You know, as a homeschooler, you can spend a LOT of money on curriculum packets, workbooks, and texts. I have written two inexpensive books — available in paperback and digital format — that will help you out.

Writing and speaking better does not require an extensive grammar course. Grammar Despair in paperback and digital format at Amazon.com.

Writing and speaking better does not require an extensive grammar course. Grammar Despair in paperback and digital format at Amazon.com.

Grammar Despair: Quick, simple solutions to problems like, “Do I say him and me or he and I?” gives you, and your child the basics for writing, without having to get into the complexities of grammar. Short, friendly, easy-to-read chapters cover the major issues writers face, from the difference between “it’s” and “its” and “they’re,” “there,” and “their,” to knowing when to make paragraphs, to whether or not it’s really a sin to end a sentence with a preposition. Writing, and teaching writing, does not have to be agonizingly difficult, and this book gives you the tools and confidence you need to do the job well. Available through Amazon.com, paperback and digital format.

Available in paperback and digital format at Amazon.com

Available in paperback and digital format at Amazon.com

Live Happily on Less: 52 Ideas to Renovate Your Life and Lifestyle talks about finances — something all homeschooling families are aware of, because we’re usually operating on less than the “norm.” In 30 years of marriage, my husband and I have raised — and homeschooled — four kids on one very modest income. We own our home — mortgage free — as well as our land, car, and business, Steve Henderson Fine Art. We have no creditors. What we’ve done isn’t magic; it’s a lifestyle. Live Happily on Less doesn’t assault you with tips and weird tricks, making you feel stupid if you don’t do everything my way — rather, it walks you through your individual situation and teaches you how to make the sustainable changes that work for you. Available through Amazon.com, paperback and digital format.

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Oops! Did God Forget You?

This is Guinevere, a remarkably patient goat who looks like this when we're running late on the milking. Photo credit Steve Henderson Fine Art

This is Guinevere, a remarkably patient goat who looks like this when we’re running late on the milking. Photo credit Steve Henderson Fine Art

This is not something you want to happen to you.

It’s 10 p.m. You’re tired. You snuggy up in the bed with your Kindle, the atrociously unpleasant cat, and the Norwegian Artist (well, actually, I snuggy up to the Norwegian; you’ve got your Italian Lumberjack or Nigerian Accountant or another atrociously unpleasant cat). And then you look at each other — you, the atrocious cat, and the Norwegian, and you say,

“By any chance did you remember to milk the goats tonight? I didn’t.”

Oops. Everyone forgot.

It happens sometimes when the schedule gets mixed up along with my mind, and one of us (I smile when I say this because it’s usually the Norwegian) heads out to the dark, empty barn and squeezes goat teats for 20 minutes.

Life happens. We’re human. We forget things, goats, unfortunately sometimes people.

And because we are human and have a tendency to forget things, goats, and unfortunately sometimes people, we expect that others do, too — with the “unfortunately sometimes people” being us. Family lets us down, friends get busy, co-workers are swamped with their own projects and we, like the cheese, stand alone.

Isn't it odd how we have more confidence in the goodness of Santa Claus than we do in the goodness of God? Little Angel Bright, original painting and signed limited edition prints by Steve Henderson

Isn’t it odd how we have more confidence in the goodness of Santa Claus than we do in the goodness of God? Little Angel Bright, original painting and signed limited edition prints by Steve Henderson

“Did you forget me?”

That’s a question I ask God sometimes, frequently, actually, because it seems like, in the frenetic pace of everyday life, with all sorts of people wanting and needing all sorts of things, God surely can’t keep up with everything, and if any person is going to be dropped, it’ll probably be me. (“It’ll probably be I,” is technically correct, by the way, but if you weren’t bothered, I won’t be either.)

So I was . . . relieved, actually, when I stumbled onto Isaiah 49:14 where God addresses this misconception:

“But Zion said, ‘The Lord has forsaken me, the Lord has forgotten me.'”

You know, it’s so nice to know that someone else thought this first, without getting fried by lightning.

“Can a mother forget the baby at her breast, and have no compassion on the child she has borne?” verse 15 continues. “Though she may forget, I will not forget you!”

I don’t know if you’ve ever nursed a baby, but I can assure you, after providing milk for four of them, that you do not forget when a highly aggressive young of the species is clamped onto one of your areola. While there are some people who can multi-task while nursing a baby, I was never one of them, satisfied with simply focusing on the task and ensuring that they didn’t get bored and bite.

We can't physically feel His arms around us, but they're there. Seaside Story, original by Steve Henderson sold; licensed open edition art print at Light in the Box and Great Big Canvas.

We can’t physically feel His arms around us, but they’re there. Seaside Story, original by Steve Henderson sold; licensed open edition art print at Light in the Box and Great Big Canvas.

But the point is this — I didn’t forget that they were there. Conversely, I frequently used the time to stroke their cheek, run my hands through their (limited) hair, lock eyes and smile, or just gaze in wonder at this wonder of life. I didn’t forget them; I interacted with them. My sole and only purpose at the moment was to be with them, feed them, and love them. I am sure that most nursing mothers would express a similar sentiment — and even if they’re one of those multi-tasking sorts, they’re not going to get so busy doing the monthly budget book that they forget the other thing, you know, the baby.

So much better is God at this than us. While He may be silent for longer than we wish, while our prayers may seem to go unanswered, while it may seem as if He’s gone off to feed the horses while forgetting to milk the goats, He hasn’t forgotten us. He hasn’t forgotten you; He hasn’t forgotten me.

He isn’t sitting on the sofa, with His Kindle and some atrocious cat, oblivious to the bleating in the barn, 150 feet away.

The fine artwork in my articles is by Steve Henderson, my Norwegian Artist who is so chivalrous about heading out to a dark, empty barn. 

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Writing and speaking better does not require an extensive grammar course. Grammar Despair in paperback and digital format at Amazon.com.

Writing and speaking better does not require an extensive grammar course. Grammar Despair in paperback and digital format at Amazon.com.

By the way, if you were confused about the “It’s probably me” or “It’s probably I,” part, don’t feel bad. You’ve been functioning just fine up to this point. If you’d like to know more about how to write and speak more correctly without becoming a grammar freak, however, consider my book, Grammar Despair: Quick, simple solutions to problems like,  “Do I say him and me or he and I?” It’s available in paperback and digital format at Amazon.com.

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Art and Wine — They Go Together!

Canyon Sprites and glorious landscapes -- now Those go together. Spirit of the Canyon, original oil painting and signed limited edition prints at Steve Henderson Fine Art; licensed open edition print at Great Big Canvas

Canyon Sprites and glorious landscapes — now Those go together. Spirit of the Canyon, original oil painting and signed limited edition prints at Steve Henderson Fine Art; licensed open edition print at Great Big Canvas

My alter ego writes weekly for Fine Art Views, a daily newsletter for artists and art lovers. This Week’s article is the second of three articles about the art and wine scenario:

Last week I introduced the concept of art, and wine, and how those of us who live in wine country are inundated with requests for our artwork, with the promise that everyone will benefit, richly (Art and Wine; Wine and Art; On and on . . .)

This is not the time to discuss when and where artists should feel compelled to donate their work — suffice it to say that we all set up policies for this contingency, and just because something is “a worthy cause” does not force our hand to contribute to it. We’ll talk about this one another time. For now, let’s get back to cheese and crackers, Bogie and Bacall, Brangelina:

Art and Wine — they go together!

This is the first of two sentences that I introduced in the first article, and one of the best recent examples I have received of it requested miniature paintings for a charitable society fundraising event set up, where else? in a winery:

Read the rest at Art and Wine: They Go Together! at the Fine Art Studio site.

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The Wisdom of Children

Children are integral not only to Christmas, but to life. Little Angel Bright, original oil painting and signed limited edition print by Steve Henderson.

Children are integral not only to Christmas, but to life. Little Angel Bright, original oil painting and signed limited edition print by Steve Henderson.

From Start Your Week with Steve, the weekly newsletter of Steve Henderson Fine Art.

Steve Says:

“I have four children, most of them young adults, and one grandchild (and yes, what you’ve heard about being a grandparent is true: it’s fun, because you don’t have to be the parent).

“The other day, Carolyn was looking at a photo of the grandchild at the age of  two, and Carolyn commented:

“‘When they’re that young, they’re totally innocent. I remember looking into our babies’ eyes and seing zero — zero — signs of deception there. Just 100 percent pure innocence.’

“It doesn’t last, and as much as I love my kids I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that they’re like human beings everywhere, and they learn the techniques of deception at an easy age — we all do. A little lie here, an omission of a fact there, a contrived body gesture giving the illusion that we’re saying something we’re not.

Children look at, and respond to, their world with innocence and hope. Bold Innocence, original sold; licensed signed limited edition print at Great Big Canvas.

Children look at, and respond to, their world with innocence and hope. Bold Innocence, original sold; licensed signed limited edition print at Great Big Canvas.

“Deception is such a part of the human experience that it almost seems normal, and maybe, for us as human beings, it is.

“But normal doesn’t equate with ‘right,’ and children, very young children, are the best teachers as to what lack of deception looks like.

“They trust us, the adults in their lives, to do right by them.

“In a tired, cynical world where the people with the most cunning are poised to receive the most material advancement, life through the eyes of a child is a different place. It’s a place where what’s important is honor, respect, love, protection, and dignity. Young children don’t love us for our money, fame, or power.

“They love us, and depend upon us, for that honor, respect, love, protection, and dignity, and when they are in our lives, they spur us on to be the people that they need us to be.”

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